生氣- 被奴役的心

現代人不管是男人或女人都很追求外表的亮麗, 買了很多高貴化妝品, 無非就是要讓自己有好顏色讓自己好看,也讓別人好看.
但是看到不做家事的孩子, 車子在自己家門口被擋, 部屬耽擱業務, 有人背後放槍... 等等, 往往使很多人馬上怒氣衝天, 高聲咆誟.
人一旦生氣, 顏面神經緊繃, 整個神情和臉上線條全都變了樣, 再多的化妝品保養品也枉然!
仔細想想: 生活中很多讓我們生氣動怒的事情真的需要我們這麼生氣嗎? 這麼生氣值得嗎? 生氣之後事情更好解決了嗎?
也許孩子不是不做家事, 只是想打完電腦之後再做; 擋車的人, 心想道路又不是你的, 暫停一下搞不好還讓你躲過一劫呢! 部屬沒在期限內完成交代業務是因為上級改決策有了改變; 背後閒話人人說,不是自古皆然嗎? 事情既是這樣, 還要生氣嗎? 值得嗎?
我們往往對於事情真相未盡了解而生氣, 也經常站在自己的立場去看事情. 結果是自己不開心, 接著做出失去理性的行為, 然後讓許多人傷心, 值得嗎?
生氣, 發"怒", 不但讓自己的心陷入被奴役狀態, 也讓自己的人緣受損. 做個有智慧的人, 要學習不生氣, 讓怒氣遠離不上身.

應該慶幸

上午新聞報導: 氣象預報凱米颱風(Typhoon Kaemi)過境, 由於結構紮實, 到時將帶來強風豪雨, 結果今天一早多數地區並未見強風豪雨, 而風景區旅客聞颱色變 , 都已退房或取消出遊計畫, 谷關風景區溫泉業者一早見這好天氣 ,也只能望天興嘆, 欲哭無淚........

聽這則新聞報導, 我很錯愕! 不知是業者真這麼想? 還是記者自己添了這段對颱風不來而 "欲哭無淚" 的報導? 其實每年夏天, 颱風豪雨為台灣帶來相當多的災難, 我們遇到的天災是太多了, 此時我們寧願颱風不來, 慶幸躲過一劫, 也不會是怪颱風沒來, 造成這樣的損失吧? 人性怎會如此貪婪呢?

對於能夠躲過可能降臨的傷害存點慶幸的心, 並在內心輕輕說聲 " 感恩, 感謝上天的仁慈", 這樣的人想必會更珍惜眼前所擁有的一切吧!

先人智慧 - 五福臨門

每逢過年, 依照客家人習俗家家戶戶都會在門簾上方貼五張紅色長方形的紙. 多數人都只知道那表示五福臨門, 象徵好運與福氣, 但到底哪五福呢? 似乎不太多人知道.
有次鄭任卿校長到我家, 問我爸這問題, 我爸告訴她, 五福分別是:
一曰福, 二曰祿, 三曰康寧, 四曰孝德, 五曰考終命.

'考終命' 就是求得好死, 自古以來人心皆同, 生命的終了若得好死 -- 沒有牽掛, 安祥有尊嚴, 這不就人生最大的福氣? 從這區區五張紙, 可見先人人生哲學與智慧!

鄭校長一則高興終於讓她這多年的疑問找到答案, 也好佩服我爸的豐富知識 !

其實我爸不只是常識豐富, 實際生活技能也令人敬佩, 造橋, 鋪路, 築堤, 上山坎樹, 種草莓, 水梨, 洋菇, 木耳, 協調糾紛解決問題等等, 樣樣都做得很有專業水準. 九二一地震把我家的兩面牆震裂 , 也是爸媽幫我整修好的.
同事們都知道我有這超級好爸媽. 我常常告訴同事和朋友們, 我爸爸五育兼優. 他們後來只要聽到我說我爸多好, 也會回我: "我爸也是五育兼優呢"! 真有意思!

家人 & 朋友

"家人是上天賜給我們的朋友;
朋友是我們為自己選擇的家人."

上天真是仁慈 , 在我們的生命旅程中, 祂早給了我們最好的安排和自由.
有家人親情的支持, 人生才有動力和幸福的感覺;
有了友情的牽引相伴, 生命才顯得豐富多彩, 不孤單.

多點耐心 (Cultivating patience)和民主涵養

姊姊是個好大姊, 她善良又很會關照弟妹.
我出國不在家, 所有的事務包括家事都勞煩他們打理.
我真要好好感恩他們一家人的!

但是我真的很豬頭!
謝意還沒表, 就又老毛病再犯 -- 欠缺聽話的耐心, 又愛唱反調!
所以老讓姊生氣不爽, 我真是太對不起她了 !
枉費她對我一片好心, 愛心和用心啊!
老姊, 就請您原諒我的無禮啦!

我知道自己個性急, 但為何經常告訴自己多點耐心, 還是沒做到呢?
追究原因, 是我同理心不夠, 尊重對方的態度也不足吧!
當人家說了我已經了解或不同意的話, 便自以為是地要去打斷或糾正,
這真不是個有民主風度的人應有的行為態度.
所以, 總而言之, 我是真欠缺民主素養和個人涵養.

請千萬告訴自己學著 '' 多點耐心" " 多點尊重",
你希望別人怎麼對待我們, 那就學著怎麼去對待人家, 不就是這樣嗎?


Reminder: To cultivate patience and the attitude of respect others;

More patience, more patience.... You don't really have to agree with others' opnions, but just don't interrupt them to express. Just respect them with the right to express. You can make it just by pay more patience to them. Go for it.

花蓮遊記 ( Visiting Hualien)

到台灣東岸的花蓮去玩玩 , 是件非常閑適的享受.
July 19, I and my niece were driving, the car rented for NT, 1200 dollares, along the eastern coastline of Hualien county. We stopped by many places:
Jiqi beach, showed as two pictures up, is loved not only by people but also by those mountains surrounding her.
The hot spring of 紅葉 and 瑞穗, both are still famous but far away from my expectaion with poor fcilities though.
We, as most tourists would do here, tasted Ma-Jie, Bian-food, fruits(the fruit juices are very special and wonderful)....etc, we really had great fun in Hualien.

Night markets are very famous and popular in Taiwan. I was glad to come to Nan-Bing Night Market(南濱夜市), where is located in the vicinty of Hualien city and developed along the coast. As we know, the night market would contain many funny things there, among them 打彈珠 is my favorite.
The wind is blowing toward you from the Pacific Ocean as you taking a walk along the coast. It's just too too good to go around the night market. I Think it's the number one night market I would show my friends whoever visit me from the other countirs.










黃昏時候到七星潭檢石頭和參觀柴魚博物館也是很悠閒的享受.

Let it be

回國兩個多星期 , 行李還沒整理呢!

天氣熱, 人懶散, 不想動就是不想動.

不想動的時候, 事情不會變多,

但允許自己懶散一下, 卻會給人好心情!

所以, 不想做家事的時候, 就讓它去吧!

Not intent to do anything although come back from US for more than two weeks.

Looking at my stuff waiting for sorting and cleaning , one thing I would do is singing the song:

let it be, let it be, let it be.....

來去花蓮( Hualien)

喔 ! 忘記把那顆逐夢的心帶回家了..........
難怪困坐愁城, 一事無成, 難怪心不在焉!

好笑的是,
你根本是故意忘記把她從美國帶回來的呀!

算算過幾天就要上班了..., 認了吧.....!
去把那顆心擒回來吧...!
該來的躲不過, 面對現實, 準備上班吧!
走一趟花蓮, 去把芳心帶回來吧!

I am to visit my niece in Hualien tomorrow. However, the real reason for this decision is to seek my heart back, which is still flying far away from Taiwan because I didn't bring her back from America on purpose.
Speaking of going to office on August 1, I feel so depressed instead be excited. Think of that I have had so wonderful and easy lives for two years in Clemson, which would be changed soon and I really don't want so.
Since coming back from America, I also face "re-cultrual shock". It means that I was growing up here the past decades, however, I have to adjust myself in some ways learned from foreigners in order to adapt the lifestyle here. It is quite hard for me.

I am looking for a veichle on line as my transportation in Hualien. Cool................
http://www.hlplay.tw/donglin/type.htm

夢幻 舊金山- Fantastic San Francisco

沒到過舊金山的人, 不從別人的敘說裡聽說她的美, 也會從歌聲中想像她的美!
拜訪過舊金山, 可以感受她的亮麗' 熱情和柔美, 卻不一定說得上她的美, 為什麼 ?
Just take a look at the lyrics of " San Francisco", you might be able to imagine and know more about the allure of San Francisco, and the reasons people like to sing for her.
金門橋, 九曲花街, 碼頭帆影, 高低起伏的街道, 碼頭傳統市場, 各式不同的市區觀光車輛, 以及和善的人們 .........等等, 都值得你走一趟, 發現她的魅力. "百聞不如一見", Go for San Francisco! Good for you !

SAN FRANCISCO
Scott McKenzie

"If you're going to San Francisco
Be sure to wear some flowers in your hair
If you're going to

San Francisco
You're gonna meet some gentle people there

For those who come to San Francisco
Summertime will be a love-in there
In the streets of San Francisco
Gentle people with flowers in their hair

All across the nation such a strange vibration
People in motion
There's a whole generation with a new explanation

People in motion people in motion

For those who come to San Francisco
Be sure to wear some flowers in your hair

If you come to San Francisco

Summertime will be a love-in there

If you come to San Francisco
Summertime will be a love-in there"

Yellow Stone National Park - 黃石公園

導遊說 Yellow Stone National Park 是全世界第一個國家公園, 也是美國最大的國家公園. 其他國家的國家公園還沒去過很多, 但這個國家公園之大, 花個十天半個月大概也只能看個大概吧!
黃石公園因公園噴泉遍佈, 岩石多因噴泉成分變黃而名之. 公園內的噴泉不定點的噴出氣體, 瀰漫山林間, 不但把山石變了色, 也讓黃石公園成了仙境一般.

這趟旅程, 我們只在這裡停留兩天, 走馬看花, 但已見其景色包羅萬象: 青青草原與噴泉白霧間, 麋鹿和水牛漫步其間, 優遊自在; 高山縱谷, 曲流幽徑, 瀑布飛岩, 黃石河水悠悠,,氣昂然, 水中肉質透明的鱒魚不斷力爭上游...... 我想不論是藝術家或是科學家, 這裡處處都可以找到他們創作與研究的靈感.

陳列的照片像極了中國的山水畫吧!

Salt Lake City - 鹽湖城

Salt Lake City 因大鹽湖(the Big Salt Lake)而名, 大鹽湖是個閉鎖湖 , 雪水是主要的湖水來源 , as a closed lake, the big Salt Lake actually doesn't smell good, and has become smaller by ten times than original. However, it still looks beautiful though.


Salt Lake City 也是摩門教的聖地, 海鷗-Seagull 則是摩門教重要的象徵物.
所有教徒一生中必須奉獻兩年從事傳教工作, 每年薪水的十分之一奉獻給教會. 或因宗教因素, 聽說這裡的治安特別好.
這個城市街道寬廣恬靜, 種植了不少的花草, 五顏六色的花朵, 確實增添這個城市幾分姿色和活力.

這裡還出產銅礦, 高高的煙囪即是煉銅所在.

Zion & Bryce Canyon National Park

June 20, we visited the Zion and Bryce Canyon National Park, both are located in the southern of Utah state.
Zion Canyon National Park presents with huge, marvelous, various colors rocks around us.
Bryce Canyon National Park just stands front of us with so astounding and sophisticated face. She really looks like piles of castles put together.








目睹展現眼前的峽谷山勢, they are so so gorgous and amazing, 我們除了驚嘆, 還是驚嘆! 讚嘆造就這片鬼斧神工的上天, 您真是太偉大, 您的巧思真是令人太佩服了!

上-up 4 pictures -錫安(Zion)峽谷國家公園巨石景色














下- below 4 pictures- 布萊斯(Bryce) 峽谷國家公園特殊景色

閱車樂

美國社會存在許多具爭議的問題, 但不可否認地, 她也有許多可愛的地方, "多樣性"-就是最顯明的一項, 這也突顯美國社會的包容性, 其所以能夠成為民族大鎔爐良有以也!
美國不但人種多樣, 車子的種類型式似乎也特別多. 旅行中, 姐似乎特別有興趣去觀察這些車子; 旅行車是他的夢想, 大卡車則是要給外甥建霖參考的, 因為他好像很喜歡開大卡車. 相較台美, 美國卡車看起來比較有值感, 外型也必較吸引人, 暫時不能擁有這些車 看看他們也覺得滿足, 照個相帶回家 每日看一回, 生活會多點目標!

看看這些車型, 覺得台灣的車子真的比較單調吧!

鈔票打造的拉斯維加斯- Las Vegas made with "Green"

走在拉斯維加斯的市區, 燈光, 霓虹燈, 人群, 車子, 五光十色; 俊男美女, 裝扮入時, 令人目不暇給; 滿街Casino老虎機吃錢的聲音更是不絕於耳!

As report, there are more than 40 million tourists/per year come to Las Vegas, 每天至少有超過十幾萬的觀光客 , 每人的消費平均超過2000 dollars. 試算算看, Las Vegas 每年為內華達州政府賺進多少錢?

Las Vegas 地處沙漠, without green resource at all, 1931通過賭博合法化, 1935年開始發展Casino, which have brought lots of green paper for the city already. I would like to say that the Las Vegas is built by "green resouces", made by money. Without money, what she will be?
看看今日Las Vegas 的發展, 七十年之間, 從一文不值的沙漠變成世界最大最有錢途的觀光都市, 看看別人, 想想自己, 我們慚愧之餘, 確應深思政府究竟該做些什麼事? 若缺乏遠見, 人民還能指望什麼 ?

天無絕人之路, 上天關我們一扇門, 也總仁慈的為我們開了另一扇門. 怎麼開? 就看我們怎麼找工具或法子 ? 找工具之前 , 最好先看看自己有什麼? 需要什麼?

Small Canyon in Las Vegas

大峽谷(Grand Canyon)三天兩夜行於十八日到達Las Vegas. 我們即脫隊到親戚家.
June 19, the next day of arriving Las Vegas, my cousin and her husband took us to the small canyon, which is much smaller than Grand Canyon and very close to the city of Las Vegas.
It was so so hot there-might over 115 F. After the trip around Arizona and Nevada the past three days, we have acknowledged that canyon is almost equal to dry and heat.

壯麗的大峽谷(Grand Canyon)

The early morning of June 17, 我 們四點鐘起床, 五點 left the hotel in Havasu City, we headed to the Grand Canyon National Park.
赫然目遇這大自然的傑作, 我想盡所有學過的形容詞, 但總還是難以形容上天這不可思議也難以想像的巨大創作, 有心人可以好好費心思吧!
我們從南門入口, 站在巨石上近看遠眺, 思想著這科羅拉多河究竟借何等神奇魔力, 刻劃出如此龐大的鬼斧神工 ? 它不但讓世人讚嘆大自然的偉大, 也讓世人慚愧人類力量的渺小. Arizona State 擁有此寶, 即使漫天沙漠佔據全州, 仍可因它而富足以傲視他州.
總體而言, "自然天成, 氣勢雄偉壯麗", 是我對大峽谷國家公園的主要印象.